Everything that glitters AIN’T gold… I posted this “oldie but goodie” quote on my Instagram and it reminded me of A LOT of learned lessons I’m practicing during my short career as a female photographer. These are also “life” lessons because everywhere you go, everyone you meet and everything you do is a classroom.
I will never forget those words coming from my grandmother as a young woman. Had a great job, my own home and identity (so I thought)… you couldn’t tell me a thing! But for some reason I KEPT choosing the WRONG guys! All of my college days, 20’s and part of my 30’s presented a web of lies, cheating and hurt with a few specs of great times. Things finally turned around when I stopped to see what was happening INSIDE the person vs. all the bells & whistles. I started to observe things like:
- How one treated other people, strangers and even customer service representatives.
- What is most important through one’s conversations & actions.
- Are they spiritual or believe that something out there is greater than themselves?
- Are they consistent?
- and what is their family history & relationships. Just to name a few…
Peeling away all the good looks, golden smiles & sweet talk, dinners, lavish gifts and vacations caused me to embrace what my granny always told me. And it saved me from the pattern of making bad & hasty choices. And in once case… it saved my LIFE!
Ok, so I told my life story… but the same principle applies with EVERYTHING including business.
Tip of the day: One thing I know for sure is…. “they smile in your face and all the time they want to take your place” – O’Jays
Thank goodness my life & coprorate lessons have really prepared me to deal with the media industry. I mentioned media because it’s new territory and SO many people are fighting & scheming to get the same shot, that day… and by ANY means necessary. I can’t tell you how many times people smile in my face while taking jabs, plotting against me and breaking deals/promises. Most of them think I don’t notice but little do they know… I choose my battles wisely and NEVER react to someone else’s attempt to throw me off track. Been there, done that!
It’s funny because some will say I’m a pushover but I’ve learned how to take one for the team to build the relationships I really want. Like the game of chess mentioned in my previous post… you can’t just fire off every time someone does something wrong or you lose a man . Sometimes you have to take one step back to take a few steps forward. I’ve noticed that most people in the industry want something handed to them so they can just keep moving forward… even to their own self-destruction.
Don’t burn bridges. Forgive but keep in mind their true colors. And most of all remember… it glittered but it certainly wasn’t gold.
Hope this helps!